It's time to come back into connection with the Eros of your Body!

​The journey of erotic embodiment and sexual wellbeing  begins with curiosity, courage and presence. This process begins with slowing down...way down, with becoming present, opening up and listening to the unique language of your body. Wisdom resides in the body, and each one speaks differently. When we slow down and sit in the center of the Self; our voice, truth and wisdom become clearer. When we are able to feel into the subtleties of breath and movement, our senses awaken, we become grounded and feel connected to our whole being. It is from this place that sensual unfurling, unfolding and discovery begins.

To access the wisdom of the body is one of the greatest acts of self love and bears the gift of profound personal empowerment. ​It is my great honor to accompany you on this journey of reconnecting with your source, and to facilitate safe and supportive sessions for your discovery and pleasure.
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* I work with ALL genders and orientations

Making Changes in our Unconscious Patterns and Habitual Reactions


SOMATIC SEX EDUCATION utilizes the new science of the brain and nervous system as a basis of expanding sexual happiness. With awareness of neuroplasticity we understand that the whole nervous system is continually changing - either learning and growing, or contracting and becoming inhibited. Just as muscles grow when we work out and atrophy when we do not, the brain and nervous system grow and evolve with more enrichment and diverse stimulation. We can create new practices and form new habits, including the habit of sexual happiness. We can expand erotic possibilities with positive experiences of physical pleasure. We can repair ruptured attachment systems with experiences of feeling cherished in our sexuality, and encouraged and prized for who we are as erotic beings...and THIS is the work we will be doing together!

What is Somatic Sex Education/Sexological Bodywork?

​"Sexological Bodyworkers are Somatic Sex Educators supporting individuals, couples to learn to direct their own erotic development, learn about their bodies, sex and sexuality, or work through sexual issues or concerns. We offer experiential learning opportunities that consciously access profound ecstatic and erotic states. Our teaching involves a variety of instructive modalities, including coaching in breath, sound, movement, body-awareness, boundary-setting, communication, sexual anatomy, sensate focus, massage, states of erotic trance. Our scope of practice includes genital and anal touch for education, healing and pleasure. We touch in ways that assist students in developing presence within the body, opening interior awareness, and learning how the body can feel more and more alive". ~ Caffyn Jesse
"The experiential learning opportunities available through Somatic Sex Education can help you engage in a respectful dialogue with your autonomic nervous system, so that physical and emotional processes that usually happen to us can be held in mindful awareness, and transformed. Love and fear, excitement and relaxation, arousal and happiness, reverence and bliss all have biochemical and physiological components that can be regulated, with training and conscious practice over time.

We all set limits on the quantity and quality of pleasure we can embody. Limits to pleasure are ubiquitous in a culture that shames sexuality and fails to teach us how to honor and celebrate erotic energy. Sexual wounding becomes embedded in the body's tissues and responses. Somatic Sex Education can assist you in expanding the pleasure that is possible". ~ Caffyn Jesse
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CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY means
Discovering Choice & Finding Your Voice

One of the somatic realms that Sexological Bodyworkers introduce to our students is a state of arousal that is free of fantasy, unfinished emotional business, religious dogma, cultural caveats and habitual sexual behaviors.

​Somatic Sex Educators assist individuals and couples to deepen their experience of embodiment. At its heart, Sexological Bodywork is an educational approach to learning about your body and its capabilities. It is a compassionate somatic healing for your sexuality and relationships.  Sexological Bodywork is a somatic therapeutic modality that allows you to explore the stories, blocks, pleasures & desires you carry, and teaches you how to fully inhabit your body.
In a nutshell, Somatic Sex Education is:
  • an educational approach to learning about your body and its capabilities
  • a compassionate approach to somatic healing in your sexuality and relationships
  • using body-based therapeutic techniques that allow you to explore quickly and efficiently your sexual stories, blocks, pleasure and desires
  • an approach that teaches you how to fully inhabit your body that gives you permission to love yourself, exactly the way you are
  • a collaborative endeavor between client and practitioner
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Who are Sexological Bodyworkers?​
  • teachers who gently lead clients through the labyrinth of sexuality to places of healing and greater pleasure
  • guides working at core body-based awareness level with exceptional presence and mindfulness
  • educators offering loving kindness and unconditional acceptance
  • mentors helping you to transform your relationships, your sexuality and your pleasure
  • We also follow a Professional Code of Ethics, maintained by the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers​​

I also work in the realm of:

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As a Sexological Bodyworker, I teach through full-body experiences designed to nurture, deepen and awaken the sensual self. Reclaiming our right to pleasure begins with this foundational empowerment.

I offer somatic sex education and coaching to curious, courageous explorers who wish to deepen and expand their capacity for pleasure. Utilizing tools of breathwork, mindful movement, conscious touch, communication and boundary/consent skills, I facilitate client-empowered experiences where people can learn how to rewire neural pathways to pleasure and learn how to have a new relationship with their bodies.​

Working Together Could Be For You If:

  • You would like to feel more at home in your sexuality
  • You would like more confidence negotiating desire and communicating authentically about your boundaries
  • You desire to move beyond past beliefs, patterns, conditioning and shame
  • You are healing from sexual trauma or boundary violations
  • You wish to explore your capacity to experience heightened states of arousal, pleasure and orgasm
  • You feel as if you have a lack of libido or mismatched desires with your partner
  • You are struggling with sexual issues such as pelvic pain, scar tissue, erectile concerns or porn "addiction", and are interested in exploring the root of these things through a holistic and somatic lens.​​
Lessons From The Sexological Bodyworker's Massage Table 

​- I can learn what it is like to feel safe being seen
- I can learn to open more to pleasure
- I can learn that none of me is broken
- I can learn that all of me has pleasure potential
- I can learn how to surrender more to myself
- I can learn boundaries
- I can learn how to name my desires
​- I can learn that I am beautiful from the inside out
- I can learn that I have a huge expanse of pleasure potential in my entire body
- I can learn what feels good to my body and what does not
- I can let go of old wounds and release them
- I can feel what it is like not to be judged by my body or my desires
- I can learn that I am worth the time
- I can use the table as a place to give birth to myself
- I can learn that naming my desires does not mean that I will have them met in the moment and that doesn't mean that I am not cared about or that my desires are too much.
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AND...on the table, I am in a unique opportunity to engage in each and every one of the above - again and again - ever widening and ever deepening towards the soul.  ~ Pamela Madsen

Nurture, Deepen and Awaken the Sensual Self

"With somatic sex education, women who are shut down sexually come alive, and experience bliss. Couples reignite passion and overcome obstacles to erotic joy. Men who are dissatisfied with ordinary sex learn to master the extraordinary. People who have experienced sexual abuse find their wholeness as erotic beings. Many students say they are astonished at the pleasure they are capable of, and they are thrilled at how easy it becomes. I have seen marriages saved, orgasmic states savored, shame released, and people opening to new dimensions of ecstatic experience, making sex profound and sacred.

Many people feel wounded sexually - by trauma, heartbreak, unmet needs or unshared secrets. Something inside us yearns for healing and wholeness. There are many therapists and self-help strategies. But the problem is, sexual healing doesn't come from the mind. Sexual healing happens in the body. Sexual healing comes from experiencing love and acceptance physically, viscerally, and with the heart." ~ Caffyn Jesse

There are many reasons we may go along with a sexual scenario that does not serve us, whether it be societal, low self-esteem, a feeling of "duty" or "obligation". Saying "yes" when the body is saying "no" can lead to unfulfilling sexual relationships, building resentment and incurring sexual trauma, even within a loving partnership. This is a very deep and personal conversation that your body may be having with you, based on valid past experiences. Through Somatic Sex Education many people have experienced:
  • How to understand the deeply held stories and messages of your body
  • Acceptance of who you are and where you are as being perfect for you at this time and place
  • Expressing yourself authentically, and discovering who you are as an erotic being

Using communication, breath, movement and touch, we can start to unravel the stories of the body, finding the joy and pleasure that is our natural state. Choosing conscious sexuality means learning how to ask for, give, receive, and take your pleasure. This means, between consenting adults...anything is possible! I can help you discover choice, and find your voice. 
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"Thank you"to my Teacher and Mentor, Caffyn Jesse, for the permission to utilize her content in order to describe Somatic Sex Education and Sexological Bodywork. I invite you to also learn more about her work and the wonderful workshops and trainings that she offers, many that are residential at her beautiful location in Salt Spring Island, Canada.
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Some of the Reasons People Come to See Me:
  • A safe place to speak openly about the most intimate details of your sexual life
  • Expressing yourself authentically and dis-covering who you are as an erotic being
  • Accessing and understanding deeply held stories and messages within your body
  • Loss or lack of sexual desire
  • Practice establishing, communicating and negotiation boundaries
  • Learning to love yourself again after sexual abuse or trauma
  • Healing from sexual trauma or traumatic child birth
  • Healing sexual or erectile concerns and learning ejaculation control
  • Scar tissue remediation - help for scars from abdominal or genital surgery
  • Learning the anatomy of arousal, becoming a better lover
  • Prostate education and health
  • Walking the path of sacred sexuality
  • Awakening to conscious sexuality - practicing giving and receiving, asking for and granting permission for touch
  • Exploring new ways of being sexual in a safe environment, including anal pleasure, power and surrender, and bold sensation
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Our sexual habits and attitudes are built over a lifetime. Like any other habit, it takes dedicated time, awareness and consistency to transform our relationship with our bodies and sexual nature.