Sex & Intimacy Coaching - For Men, Women & Couples

I am honored to offer private Sex & Intimacy Coaching sessions for men, women and couples who are looking to heal, grow and expand their sexual capacities. The form of these sessions are customized based on your history, challenges, intentions and desires. Our work is guided by your goals for sexual healing, erotic and emotional skill building, and relationship transformation.

Sex & Intimacy Coaching is the process of drawing out your inherent wisdom to refine your relationship with your sexuality and expand your potential for pleasure, passion and authenticity. I guide individuals to be more connected and authentic in their body and sexuality. Our work together will also include learning how to discover, heal, and expand, your Erotic Blueprint™!

The best sex happens when your heart, your mind, and your body are all on board...and a little guidance can make all the difference. I'll ask you questions to make it easier to figure out what you want. I'll make suggestions for things to try, information to read, and ways to talk with your current (or future) partner. We'll explore somatic practices that will help you tune into your desires and connect more deeply with your lover (or future lover!).
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Some Areas of Exploration:
  • Exploring and playing with communicating your desires and fantasies
  • Healing past trauma or boundary violations/Freeing yourself from shame
  • How to discover your authentic sexual desire/Erotic Blueprint™
  • Learning to clearly define your "yes's" and your "no's", and to communicate them
  • How to talk with your partner about what you really want
  • Continue deepening your sexual connection within long-term relationships
  • Bringing sensual kink and playful power dynamics into the bedroom
  • Overcome sexual concerns, such as painful sex, low libido, ED, PE, etc.
  • If you are newly single, how to get back out into the dating world again, knowing what you want!
  • May include enrollment in Jaiya's online Blueprint Breakthrough Course​​

WORKING WITH COUPLES - Communicate Your Desires

I help couples enhance and expand their sexual expression in order to have sustained and long-lasting desire for sex and intimate connection.

A good place to start can be, "What is your definition of "sex" and why is it important to 'you' and to 'us'?
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I help you gain the necessary communication skills to express yourself and receive the other's expression as you dive into the realms of sensation, fantasy, and passionate connection to create an exciting and multi-faceted sexual relationship between you and your partner. Learn to: ​Notice, Trust, Value & Communicate What You Want!
There are many ways to explore sex and make it more hot, passionate, romantic, physically stimulating and psychologically arousing. In order to start exploring all of the different ways you might expand, it is helpful to have a map to understand the different realms in which it is possible to play. I love to help individuals and couples identify, explore and expand in the various realms of sexual expression to create long-term excitement and sexual satisfaction. ​As a couple, you will be guided through exercises for you to practice and explore needs, desires and boundaries. 

Bring Back the Connection, Intimacy and Passion!

Often, when couples initially connect, sex is passionate, frequent and hot. It is natural for our sexual connections to shift and change, to ebb and flow. Sometimes, however, this natural contractions and expansion of sexual flow between lovers becomes stuck. Sex can be problematic. Even the most connected couples experience sexual challenges at some point in their relationship!

Once the chemical high of a new sex relationship has deepened into the more sustainable love relationship, we can expect sex to change. If a partner has a difficult sexual past, a new partner can offset problematic sexual responses, for a while. But after time, these patterns have a tendency to return. Also, couples can become entrenched in patterns of disconnect or resentment, or even just patterns of turn-on and sexual expression.

Even in functional relationships, sex and intimacy change over time. Life changes such as stress, illness, becoming parents, moving, work-related stress, ailing parents, can change how we express our sexuality in partnership. If cycles of blame or denial or withholding of love and intimacy are happening, sex becomes weaponized. There is a chasm that occurs within the relationship that becomes hard to span. If a couple gets blocked around sex, it can be really challenging to talk about the discomfort or unhappiness you are feeling in your intimate partnership. 

Here's where a Sex & Intimacy Coach can really facilitate a transition back to expanded erotic possibilities and sexual satisfaction for each partner. In my practice, I offer tools, exercises and  support for couples to honestly face the issues they have, and move gently away from sexual blocks, towards greater pleasure and connection.

How does this differ from therapy?

While therapy utilizes a "top-down" treatment model to identify and diagnose dysfunction, I work "bottom-up; which means my work with you is body-based and informed by the neurobiology of the nervous system. Through somatic practices and processes, I guide you in learning to embody a sense of safety that you may have never developed in your early life, by finding  deeper connection and trust in your own body, versus a therapy model of talking about past narratives and stories. Working in this way helps you to increase emotional awareness and your capacity to feel, receive and give pleasure physically and emotionally, and co-create relationships based on compassion, empathy, trust, embodied consent, integrity and true acceptance.
Transformation is based on the cultivation, practice and repetition of new choices over a period of time. You are provided with learning resources, embodied homework and practice sessions that will support you in rewiring your nervous system into new habits of safety, presence, pleasure and being able to track and communicate what is arising, moment-to-moment. Learn to honor and speak your truth from a place of self-love, self-acceptance and self-discovery to create a whole new landscape of erotic possibility!

​Virtual coaching sessions provide you with a practice space to safely talk about sex, ask questions you’ve never asked before, and get coaching help where you feel stuck or frozen because of shame or sex-negative conditioning from family, religion, or social conditioning. Because I work somatically, I will help you notice what is happening in your body and ask you questions to help you bring into your awareness what may be unconscious, so you may integrate what has been unresolved, and relax instead into more ease, pleasure and joy.

​Together we come up with homework; small, doable pieces you can do yourself or with your partner that support self-discovery, empathy, and expanding your communication and touch skills. You may be practicing finding arousal in a new way, talking about sex out loud in ways you’ve never dared before, or breathing and grounding as ways of letting go of performance anxiety, fear, or resentment when they come up. All of this means you are cultivating and actively co-creating the kind of satisfying, playful, truly present sexual experiences you actually want, with the one(s) you love most ~ including yourself, if you are single!

In a nutshell, I approach trauma (None of us are untouched by past overwhelming experiences!) and sexuality (We are ALL sexual/creative beings!) through the lens of psycho-neurobiology, spirituality...and the science of pleasure, arousal, and sexuality. The KEY will be the somatic practices that you will be doing throughout our work together! This is Nervous System Work ~ Safety > Attunement > Polarity = Deeper Connection & Greater Sexual Satisfaction!

Get The Support Your Love Deserves
Imagine sex feeling easy …
Imagine sex coming from desire, not obligation or guilt…
Imagine sex feeding and deepening your love for each other.
Learn how receiving support in this area of your life can make all the difference!
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OBLIGATORY SEX
Feeling guarded and walking on eggshells to make sure that you do the right thing at the right time

Holding back on saying what you want in fear of hurting or pushing away your partner

Getting sex "over with" so one partner gets their pleasure and the "box is checked"

Rushing through foreplay and intercourse without taking time to get aroused

Engaging out of guilt or fear of disappointing or losing your partner

Enduring sex or "giving in" after the monthly “It’s been a while” conversation

Going through the motions to "get off" with minimal touch and arousal, just enough to orgasm

Feeling ashamed of or disappointed with this part of your life, even though the rest of your relationship is loving and fulfilling
INTIMATE LOVEMAKING
Letting your guard down and moving towards each other in an open and vulnerable way

Communicating desires without guilt or shame and in ways where you each feel understood

Making pleasure part of the shared experience of deeper connection and sexual satisfaction

Realizing there is no "foreplay", only following moment-to-moment pleasure

Engaging with each other from playful curiosity, fullness and generosity

Learning that scheduling is a way to honor each other's timing and capacity for full presence

Connecting deeply through touch and sexual play in ways that enliven and excite both partners

​Being proud of what you’ve created together and never doubting that you have the touch and communication skills for lasting fulfillment and joy!

Couple's Intimacy Coaching is ideal if you and your partner would like:

  • to deepen your sexual connection. Couples that make time for regular physical intimacy are far better off than those that do not. Relationships where sex is fun and exploratory, and meets both partners' needs for connection and consent rest upon a strong foundation.
  • to have better communication about sex, fantasy, desire and boundaries. Talking about what you want or don't want is a skill that can be learned over time. Developing honest, simple ways to communicate during intimacy really can make the world of difference. It allows each person to receive touch the way that they want it to be, rather than how another thinks it should be; creating intimacy that feels confident, clear and full of choice.
  • to have better sex, or to start having sex again. Often partners don't want to 'rock the boat' in terms of the sex they are having, and sex can get boring, repetitious, canned, or infrequent. Somatic Sex Education helps you communicate about sex, so that you can start having it how and when you want!
  • to learn how your partner is erotically wired, and how to 'feed' them! It starts with knowing your partner's 'pleasure  map' and how you partner is wired to feel the most pleasure.  Learn conscious touch skills that will bring greater intimacy and connection for deeper passion and more frequent and more fulfilling sex!
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Couple's Intimacy Coaching Sessions are an ideal container to explore new techniques, break old habits, and reinvigorate your sex life. All with non-judgmental hands-on support, in real time. Exploring sexuality together as a couple can deepen connection, and expand pleasure as well as help with sexual concerns that couples are having. Intimacy Coaching can allow you to heal or shift sexual challenges, address stored shame or trauma, break old habits, try new techniques, increase the intimacy you share, and reinvigorate your couple's sex life. If you have stopped having sex, or have a low-sex marriage, or sex needs to be better, seeing an Intimacy Coach will help.

Sexual Breakdown

You live mostly in your head
You notice sexual blocks/inhibitions
You have physical sexual concerns like libido or pain
Sexual past prevents you from enjoying sex
You're in a low-sex or no-sex relationship
You're in repeating destructive relationship patterns
Shame is a permanent resident
Your ability to feel is compromised; numbness
​The sexual routine in your relationship is boring
Not sure how to initiate sex, or what to do
You may experience pelvic pain or discomfort
You uncomfortable talking about sex or your desires
​You don't really know what you want, just not this

Erotic Freedom

You live fully in your body
You have easy access to your turn-on
Everything's working as it should physically
Your orgasms run a spectrum from good to amazing
You're in the present, experiencing your full sexuality
Great sex is happening on the regular
You live a big, joyful, shame-free life
You feel exquisite pleasure and sensation
Your sexual relationships are curious and exploratory
You feel sexually confident
​You experience relaxed pleasure
You've got effective, sexy communication skills
​You know what you want, ask for it, and receive it!
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If you find that you are mostly on the "Sexual Breakdown" side of things,
​Somatic Sex Education and Intimacy Coaching can move you towards Erotic Freedom!
As a Somatic Sex Educator, Sexological Bodyworker and Sex+Intimacy Coach with a full-time practice since 2016, I have worked with hundreds of individuals and couples, both virtually and in-person. Much of my work centers on the framework of The Erotic Blueprints™ (I began my private mentorship with Jaiya in 2013, and am currently one of only four of her Master Trainer/Lead Coaches), which is a rich framework for expanding and understanding your definition of what "sex" is, that you are not broken or wrong in any way; and that, in fact, your desires are fundamentally natural and good!
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