HOW I MAY SUPPORT YOU:

It is truly my great honor, and pleasure, to be supporting INDIVIDUALS to expand nervous system capacity to heal from physical and emotional symptoms; and support COUPLES in moving beyond scripts and patterns, into DEEPENED TRUST, INTIMACY, DESIRE, & EXPANDED EROTIC EXPRESSION.
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​This is more than “bodywork", “coaching" or “number of sessions”. This is deep somatic and existential work that addresses patterns and imprints that have been formed over years, and perhaps even lifetimes. It’s about being compassionately by your side as you become consciously aware of default scripts, conditioning, beliefs and behaviors…being expressed in your body, your relationships, and your life.
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Through integrative mentorship, I will support you in incorporating and integrating new empowered choices and practices as you strengthen new neural pathways to greater ease, joy, and vitality. As a couple, combining the individual and relational somatic work provides you with a renewed experience and expression of deeper intimate connection and expanded, playful, erotic expression.
  • There are many 'coaches' out there. And there are many 'bodyworkers' out there. What sets my work apart is the inclusion of TRAUMA-INFORMED, WHOLE BODYWORK & HANDS-ON/DIRECT-EXPERIENCE LEARNING. This is Deep Listening to the Wisdom of YOUR body, at the pace of YOUR nervous system! Working with the 'seen and unseen' aspects of patterns and imprints. Psyche & Soma. From Patterns to Presence.
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  • HIGH-TOUCH SUPPORT in-between bodywork sessions - or prior to and after your Immersion Retreat - are what makes transformation inevitable. Personally and Relationally. Bring back Vitality and Desire!
 
  • SOMATIC PRACTICES & DEEP INQUIRIES to support pattern interrupt and new neural learning for the embodiment and integration for reparative and generative healing, growth and transformation.
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  • I have been serving several hundreds of individuals and couples in this capacity since 2015, with many different trainings and certifications 'under my belt'.  (More About My Training Here)
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Ways That I May Support You:

Embody Pleasure Membership/Mentorship:

Private Online Client Portal: for ongoing support, and to enhance and anchor the benefits of our work together. I'm here for you! Together we'll map and track where you're succeeding and where you're stuck so we may drop in as needed to neutralize struggles and blocks, and celebrate each inspired and empowered “win"! It's all your Body's Wisdom speaking to you!

There are Learning Resources for understanding and regeneration at a cognitive level. (Understanding the science can reduce the shame!) However, what will be most important are the deep somatic inquiries and practices that will be PIVOTAL in your healing, growth and transformation: individually, relationally, and within our private community! See below to learn about the "Intimacy Unfurling" Framework.

Receive a STRUCTURED SYSTEM for Mapping and Tracking your Journey, unfolding and evolving according to YOUR unique needs and desires. This way, we will be sure to be moving at the pace that is most appropriate, and being responsive to what arises from moment to moment…with an understanding that contraction will always be a part of the process of growth, evolution and expansion. It’s ALL “information”! 
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INCLUDES:
  • High-Touch Email, Text, Voice & WhatsApp Support
  • Virtual Community: Including Private Women's Group & Private Men's Group
  • Learning Resources: Courses, Video & Audio practices, Deep Somatic Inquiries
  • Live Virtual Classes & Group Coaching Calls
  • In-person Couple's Workshops & Facilitated Play Parties (Shapeshifter Playground!)​
  • Optional Access to Jaiya's Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Course

The "INTIMACY UNFURLING" Framework

The "Intimacy Unfurling" Framework is not a course you can purchase. It is a living framework — one I use with my clients as a container for real-time embodied transformation.

You cannot move through resources at your own pace. There is no module to fall behind on. There is no content to consume.

There is only what is true in your body right now — and the guided inquiry that meets you there.

​The framework does not teach you about your erotic aliveness. It walks alongside you as you discover it — at the pace of your nervous system can actually integrate, in the sequence your lived experience actually calls for.
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HOW THIS WORKS:
The "Intimacy Unfurling" Framework is the structure within which our work together unfolds. It is  not a curriculum you move through. It is a living container — held by me as your guide and witness — in which your erotic aliveness, your relational health, and your body's own  intelligence are given the conditions to emerge.

The material within the framework is offered to you as it becomes relevant to your own lived  experience. Not before. Not in a predetermined sequence. According to what your body is actually ready to meet.

​I am not teaching you. I am reflecting back to you the wisdom that is already present in your system — and creating the conditions in which you can hear it. 

We begin with a virtual or in-person MAPPING SESSION. Scroll further down to learn more.
LAYER 1 - SOMATIC GROUND

Module 1: Mapping Your Nervous System
Somatic foundation - before we bring sex into it
  • ​Polyvagal Theory — mapping 'safe', 'mobilized', 'shutdown'. Not as an absolute truth, but a moment-to-moment lived experience. This is why we map....and TRACK! Moving from patterns to presence!
  • The Window of Tolerance/Presence — capacity, edges, and what happens outside it
  • Co-Regulation as the Biological Foundation of Intimacy
  • Survival Strategies (urgency, numbing, performing) as nervous system intelligence, not character flaws
  • Somatic Tracking — mapping sensation, not story
  • Belief Mapping — mapping conditioning & scripts

Module 2: Mapping Your Erotic Nervous System
Now we bring sexuality into the somatic understanding
  • Neuroscience of Pleasure, Arousal, Desire, and Turn-on — the nuanced distinctions
  • Dopamine: the neurochemistry of desire, erotic mapping, and motivation
  • Chemistry of Intensity and Survival Sex — why urgency can masquerade as passion
  • Patterns and Survival Strategies - specifically in sex
  • The Coupled Nervous System Desire Cycle — how two nervous systems create and collapse erotic charge together
  • The Coupled Threat Cycle — often labeled as "mismatched libido"

LAYER 2 - DEVELOPMENTAL ROOTS

Module 3: How Desire Was Shaped
Developmental evolution, attunement, cultural scripts & erotic identity roots
  • The Developmental Evolution of Desire — how erotic identity forms across developmental stages
  • The Impact of Attunement on Erotic Development — what is attunement, biologically?
  • Men's and Women's Sexual Health and Expression --  through neurophysiology, developmental stages, parts work, trauma, sexual development, polyvagal theory, and attachment tendencies
  • Cultural and Religious Scripts — how external narratives become internal architecture
  • Trauma and Sexual Development — how early wounding shapes the erotic system
  • Attachment Theory Introduction — secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized (tendencies, not identities)
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LAYER 3 - THE INTERIOR LANDSCAPE

Module 4: The Interior Landscape
Parts work, internal polarity, attachment in the bedroom & the inner erotic ecosystem
  • Parts Work + Internal Polarity — the relational ecosystem within the self
  • Protector Parts vs Pleasure-Capable Parts — who shows up erotically and why
  • Inner Witness Building — the regulating presence that holds without controlling
  • The Inner Erotic Ecosystem
  • Attachment + Erotic Pacing — self-attunement as building coherence
  • Anxious/Avoidant/Disorganized in the Bedroom — attachment strategies reorganizing erotically

LAYER 4 - CLEARING THE GROUND

Modules 5: The Four Domains to Health & Pleasure (as taught by Ellen Heed)
When "obstacles" become pathways to vitality, health and pleasure - Re-membering Blueprint Essence
  • Biomechanical Realm — focuses on posture, movement patterns, & physical flexibility. Tight muscles and connective tissues can impinge nerves, reducing sensation and causing dysfunction.
  • Emotional Realm — body/mind connection; how psychological history, trauma, and suppressed emotions are stored in the body. (shame, safety, internal permission)
  • Biochemical Realm — involves managing hormonal balance, inflammation, dietary habits, and desire physiology
  • Realm of Scar Tissue — (structural trauma): refers to physical adhesions resulting from injuries, surgeries, or childbirth, which can restrict tissue mobility, limit sensation, and cause chronic pain

Module 6: Turn-on Arousal, Embodied Consent & The Erotic Blueprints™ (created by Jaiya)
The distinctions that change everything — and what you are actually made of erotically
  • Turn-on vs Arousal — the delicately nuanced distinction in erotic life; arousal anatomy & physiology
  • Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent — The Art of Receiving and Giving; who is this for?
  • Embodied Consent Literacy + Repair — ongoing embodied consent as erotic practice
  • The Erotic Blueprints™  created by Jaiya — Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky,  & Shapeshifter; an erotic framework and language that deepens your connection and expands sexual expression
  • Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire; and what it means for couples

Note: My work is also greatly influenced by Dr. Aimie Apigian, author of The Biology of Trauma. I am currently enrolled in her Practitioner Certification Training. I also had the great fortune of training with her, in-person, in San Diego earlier this year!

LAYER 5 - BUILDING THE EROTIC FIELD

Module 7: Polarity, Containment & Creative Erotic Tension
The charge that lives in the space between opposites
  • Polarity as Creative Tension — not gender, not role
  • Internal Polarity: the erotic field inside one body before it lives between two
  • Containment as Devotion — structure in service of freedom; the vessel that makes depth possible
  • Desire Without Demand — holding longing without collapsing it into urgency or withdrawal
  • Developmental Arc: Awareness → Sensation → Meaning → Expansion → Integration

LAYER 6 - DYNAMIC EROTIC EXPRESSION

Module 8: Power as Invitation, Surrender as Strength
Dominance, Surrender, & Sensual Power Dynamics
  • Dominance as Attuned Leadership — direction, not control; holding the frame
  • Surrender as Chosen Yielding — the kind that arises from genuine safety and genuine desire
  • Power-With vs Power-Over — the difference lives in the receiving nervous system
  • Attachment Patterns in the Power Field
  • Embodied Consent Literacy + Repair
  • The Inner Dominant and Inner Surrender — solo practice as attuned presence

LAYER 7 - INTEGRATION

Module 9: The Cultivated Empowered Erotic Persona™, by Jaiya
Integrated polarities & unfolding erotic identity without performance
  • Integrated Polarities — power/tenderness, confidence/receptivity, mystery/authenticity, agency/surrender
  • Unfolding Erotic Identity Without Performance — what is actually yours vs what was inherited
  • Solo erotic practice as attuned presence
  • Bringing the Empowered Erotic Persona™ into partnered intimacy — presence, not performance

Module 10: The Unfurling
Integration, evolution & the living erotic practice
  • Weaving the threads of all ten modules
  • Erotic Vitality as Life Vitality — how the practice extends beyond the bedroom
  • Designing your Ongoing Erotic Practice — rhythm, ritual, renewal
  • A Couple's Ceremony of Erotic Presence — ritual of attunement and intention

BEGIN HERE: The "Intimacy Unfurling" Mapping Session

This is not a standard intake. It is the first act of listening.

Before we focus on sexual concerns directly, we map the nervous system that those concerns are living inside of. Because the body cannot unfurl into vitality, pleasure, connection, our authentic erotic expression when it is organized around pressure, bracing, urgency, accomodation, shutdown or survival.

With the added support of a Pre-session Pattern Assessment Form, during this session we look at both state and story: the current patterns of activation, shutdown, urgency, bracing, disconnection, or accomodation in your system, and the meaning your body and mind have made from past experiences, relational patterns, conditioning, shame, pressure, pain, rejection, or learned ways of staying safe.

​(Important note: While this one session will certainly provide great insight, work together over time is what will provide a more accurate picture, via ongoing mapping and tracking, as to what is "standing in the way" of calm aliveness, vitality, desire, and capacity for pleasure and connection.)
Pleasure is not something we demand from the body; it is one sign that the system has enough safety, enough permission, and enough capacity to open.
What This Session Includes:
  • Pre-Session Pattern Assessment Form
  • Available Virtually (90-mins) or In-Person (120-mins)
  • Available for an Individual or a Couple
  • A 30-Minute Follow-up Call
  • Personalized Follow-up Resources: to support your next steps and ongoing Journey
This session helps us understand where your system contracts, where it organizes around protection, and where there may already be openings toward more aliveness, more truth, and more ease.

For some people, this alone brings meaningful clarity, relief, language, and direction. Even if this is as far as you go with me — and you do not continue into coaching, bodywork, or a longer container — the Mapping Session can still offer a deeper understanding of what your system has been doing and why.
If You Want Ongoing Support:

For some people, the Mapping Session is enough to create real clarity and momentum. For others, it becomes the doorway into deeper work. If we decide that ongoing support would be beneficial, the next step is a 3-month container. This allows the work to unfold with more consistency, more spaciousness, and more integration than a single session can provide.

Ongoing work may include:
  • Virtual coaching via Zoom or phone, and within a private coaching portal
  • In-person direct-experience sessions; Boulder location, (or I may travel to you, or a destination location)
  • High-touch support between sessions; email/text+voice messaging
  • Mapping and tracking symptoms, patterns and new neural learning along the way
  • Personalized deep inquires and somatic practices for guidance and support
  • Access to "Intimacy Unfurling" Framework materials as they become relevant to your lived experience
  • Access to the virtual Embody Pleasure Community; private women's group, private men's group, and a co-ed group
  • Access to Jaiya's Erotic Blueprint™ Breakthrough Course (I am one of 5 Master Trainers and Lead Coach)
  • The possibility of a deeper Immersion Retreat when that level of container is appropriate

This is not self-paced work. It is relational, embodied, and responsive to what your system and relationship is ready to meet.
“The erotic is not a question only of what we do; it is a question of how acutely and fully we can feel in the doing.” 
​~ Audre Lorde, Uses of The Erotic: The Erotic as Power
"Touch comes before sight, before speech. It is the first language and the last, and it always tells the truth."
​~ Margaret Atwood
As a NeuroSomatic Sexologist/Erotic Embodiment Educator, people generally come to me at the point when they are experiencing a strained expression in their personal and/or relational sexuality. However, exploration of expanded states of pleasure and arousal is NOT where we begin our work together.

​We begin with You…Feeling Safe…to be a Fully Embodied YOU!
We begin with exploring what imprints, patterns and perhaps painful restrictions or limitations may be preventing you from full, free expression of YOU! As a couple, this is now when you can truly meet each other and 'meet the moment' with deepened connection and a vast array of delicious choices for sexual expression. Develop tools to last a lifetime!
We start with the nervous system. With being able to continually come back to a baseline of ease and safety within your inherently wise body security system. Our bodies and lives are constantly being bombarded with overwhelming stimuli and distraction. It is no wonder most of us have exited our bodies and may feel stuck in looping thoughts and tension patterns.

And from this already overstimulated and stressed-out state we are expecting to have deep, connected and meaningful sexual experiences? That is absolutely possible….AFTER we create a safe(r) space for you to inhabit and express all of YOU!
People choose to work with me for many reasons. At the foundational level, there has become a disconnect with Self. Often this is noticed and expressed through the body via pain, numbness, or lack of sexual aliveness with self and/or with a partner. There may be a lack of libido, erectile concerns, differing desires and/or difficulty in communicating boundaries and desires.
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The scope of my practice allows me to provide bodywork and direct learning experiences that will invite you back to your WHOLE SELF! Together we map and track where there is ease and flow in your body, in your intimate relating, and in your life - as well as where there might be obstacles or patterns of protection that may be inhibiting this life force being ease-fully expressed within your own body - and/or sexually expressed with a partner.

​What we have believed, experienced and practiced over time, we have come to embody…literally. What generative new beliefs, experiences and practices may be integrated to create a whole new level of possibilities? THIS is where I may support you! And this also happens over a period of time.
* I work with ALL genders and orientations
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