What we have believed, experienced and practiced over time, we have come to embody…literally. What generative new beliefs, experiences and practices can we install to create a whole new level of possibilities? THIS is where I may support you! And this also happens over a period of time.

Ideally we will be able to work together in person, via a combination of direct-experience learning and bodywork. There will also be virtual support that is available both prior to and following any in-person work. And even better….would be the opportunity to experience a series of bodywork sessions and/or Immersions over a period of time. However….we start with small, doable pieces. And any amount of time that we work together will surely support and inform any ongoing healing, growth and transformation.
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 Come to Boulder, CO
​​for an Immersion Retreat!

Consider this your very own "Sex, Love & Goop" Experience!
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The Science of Sex + The Neurobiology of Trauma =
How Gain Access to Our SELVES!

​ALL OF YOU IS WELCOME HERE!

​I am happy and honored to work in partnership with your current therapist, practitioner or team of practitioners. Because of the scope and nature of my work (including pleasure, arousal, sexuality and the WHOLE body!), this work can be very complimentary to the work that you have already been doing with other practitioners. And this could be the missing link allowing you to move through, integrate and alchemize past traumatic experiences!
I was one of the 2018 certified graduates in Ellen Heed's STREAM (scar tissue remediation, education & management) training program. I have continued my training and mentorship with Ellen since then, and have had the great honor of serving clients in this capacity over the past eight years.

​I have also completed Levels 1-4 with Alchemical Alignment (Somatic tools for for trauma resolution and embodiment of spirit), with Brigit Viksnins. I continue to be an ongoing student of this profound system of learning, as well.

​This is NOT like going to get a "massage". This is a commitment to doing deep somatic work over a period of time as you not only unravel loops, imprints and patterns from the past, but you are also incorporating and integrating new empowered choices and practices as you build and strengthen new neural pathways to greater ease, joy, health and vitality. (And deeper connection and satisfaction!)
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AFTER an Initial Nervous System Mapping Session....What a Potential Body Mapping Session May Look Like:

Of course, there will be variances depending on whether you come to me as an individual or a couple. (As a couple, there will be work that each of you do as an individual, as well). What are your unique needs, goals and desires? What are the blocks that are keeping you from your fullest expression? Again, it starts with your nervous system, and establishing a baseline of safety within your body. We will lay the foundation of co-regulation, attunement and embodied consent.

We are in NO RUSH to 'get' ANYWHERE! We will always go at the pace of YOUR nervous system, and listen to what is most appropriate...moment to moment....oscillating between Safety and "small, doable pieces" of activation so that Safety will always be a visceral place that can be returned to, and you might also have the opportunity to build new neural pathways/opportunities for greater capacity and resilience.

We begin with practices and exercises that map and track your nervous system. And we will always, only go at a pace that is in accordance with what can easily be digested and integrated. We work with embodied consent and boundaries, sovereignty and agency. I want to be sure you are comfortable with both your “yes’s” and your “no’s”.
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  1. When you arrive to your session, we start with safely “arriving” and landing not only in the space around you, but also safely arriving and landing in your body. Let’s also tune-in to the space between you and I. Attunement is particularly important.
  2. As we move to the table for bodywork, we will utilize communication, touch practices and bodywork to assess and regulate your nervous system. We ALWAYS notice, track and go at the pace of the slowest part of you!
  3. I utilize cranial work to assess for tension and facilitate vagal flow. Throughout the session, I will always be addressing tension and unconscious holding patterns.
  4. I work to open the breath and optimize pelvic placement and mobility.
  5. Assessment continues to legs, pelvis, and to the back body.
  6. Allowing time and space at the end of the session is particularly important for integration as you transition back into "normal" life!
Throughout this bodywork protocol, created by Ellen Heed, I will be working with 16 postural muscles, where the muscle meets the bone. ‘Where muscle meets bone’ is where we will discover tension patterns, postural influences, scar tissue and potential pain. This is also where messages carried by the nerves to muscles, glands or organs may be strained or distorted. We are also noticing and tracking protective and emotional reactions and responses, as well.

​This modality of bodywork delivers effective hands-on work to assess what’s changing in one’s tissue and to notice blockage and scars caused by biochemistry, biomechanics or emotions. As I move through your body, the muscle we’re working with and the emotion that may arise are simply building a bridge from a felt-sense of something...to a possible conversation. Conversations and insights that we might not get to in any other way.

But to reemphasize...your session may look completely different...as your needs, body and nervous system might call for a very different unfolding! Perhaps "arriving and landing in" your body is the whole session! Perhaps "feeling safe in your body" is a new neuro-opportunity for you! And that would be HUGE! 

Somatic Trauma Resolution

As a Erotic Embodiment Educator, people generally come to me at the point when they are experiencing a strained expression in their personal and relational sexuality. However, exploration of expanded states of pleasure and arousal are typically NOT where we begin our work together.

​We begin with You…Feeling…YOU!

​We begin with exploring what imprints, loops, patterns, perhaps painful restrictions or limitations are preventing you from full, free expression of YOU!

​We start with the nervous system. With being able to continually come back to a baseline of ease and safety within your inherently wise body security system. Our bodies and lives are constantly bombarded with so much overwhelming stimuli and distraction, it is no wonder most of us have exited our bodies and are stuck in looping thoughts and tension patterns.

And from this already overstimulated and stressed-out state we are expecting to have deep, connected and meaningful sexual experiences? That is absolutely possible….AFTER we create a safe(r) space for you to inhabit all of YOU!
If you are a couple, you will return home with a deeper connection and tools to continue to co-create an intimate life that continues to deepen, expand and evolve. If you are single, you will return home with empowered voice and choice to create an intimate life that excites and enlivens you. Why wait any longer?
​ALSO: I am happy and honored to work in partnership with your current therapist, practitioner or team of practitioners.
​Because of the scope and nature of my practice - which includes pleasure, arousal, sexuality and the WHOLE body - this work can be very complimentary to the work that you have already been doing with other practitioners. And this could be the missing link allowing you to move through, integrate and alchemize past experiences of trauma and neglect.
Working with me could be for you if you:
  • ​​​​​Desire to liberate yourself from shame and negative messaging around sex
  • Feel as if you have a lack of libido or mismatched desires with your partner
  • Wish to overcome sexual concerns such as painful sex or ejaculation choice
  • Desire to deepen your sexual connection within a long-term relationship
  • Are curious about bringing power dynamics+sensual kink into the bedroom
  • Find yourself newly single and want to get back out into the dating world again, knowing what you want and how to ask for it!
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Areas of exploration and support:

Couple's Intimacy Coaching is ideal if you and your partner would like:

  • to deepen your sexual connection. Couples that make time for regular physical intimacy are far better off than those that do not. Relationships where sex is fun and exploratory, and meets both partners' needs for connection and consent rest upon a strong foundation.
  • to have better communication about sex, fantasy, desire and boundaries. Talking about what you want or don't want is a skill that can be learned over time. Developing honest, simple ways to communicate during intimacy really can make the world of difference. It allows each person to receive touch the way that they want it to be, rather than how another thinks it should be; creating intimacy that feels confident, clear and full of choice.
  • to have better sex, or to start having sex again. Often partners don't want to 'rock the boat' in terms of the sex they are having, and sex can get boring, repetitious, canned, or infrequent. Somatic Sex Education helps you communicate about sex, so that you can start having it how and when you want!
  • to learn how your partner is erotically wired, and how to 'feed' them! It starts with knowing your partner's 'pleasure  map' and how you partner is wired to feel the most pleasure.  Learn conscious touch skills that will bring greater intimacy and connection for deeper passion and more frequent and more fulfilling sex!
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Couple's Intimacy Coaching Sessions are an ideal container to explore new techniques, break old habits, and reinvigorate your sex life. All with non-judgmental hands-on support, in real time. Exploring sexuality together as a couple can deepen connection, and expand pleasure as well as help with sexual concerns that couples are having. Intimacy Coaching can allow you to heal or shift sexual challenges, address stored shame or trauma, break old habits, try new techniques, increase the intimacy you share, and reinvigorate your couple's sex life. If you have stopped having sex, or have a low-sex marriage, or sex needs to be better, seeing an Intimacy Coach will help.

Get The Support Your Love Deserves
Imagine sex feeling easy …
Imagine sex coming from desire, not obligation or guilt…
Imagine sex feeding and deepening your love for each other.
Learn how receiving support in this area of your life can make all the difference!
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OBLIGATORY SEX
Feeling guarded and walking on eggshells to make sure that you do the right thing at the right time

Holding back on saying what you want in fear of hurting or pushing away your partner

Getting sex "over with" so one partner gets their pleasure and the "box is checked"

Rushing through foreplay and intercourse without taking time to get aroused

Engaging out of guilt or fear of disappointing or losing your partner

Enduring sex or "giving in" after the monthly “It’s been a while” conversation

Going through the motions to "get off" with minimal touch and arousal, just enough to orgasm

Feeling ashamed of or disappointed with this part of your life, even though the rest of your relationship is loving and fulfilling
INTIMATE LOVEMAKING
Letting your guard down and moving towards each other in an open and vulnerable way

Communicating desires without guilt or shame and in ways where you each feel understood

Making pleasure part of the shared experience of deeper connection and sexual satisfaction

Realizing there is no "foreplay", only following moment-to-moment pleasure

Engaging with each other from playful curiosity, fullness and generosity

Learning that scheduling is a way to honor each other's timing and capacity for full presence

Connecting deeply through touch and sexual play in ways that enliven and excite both partners

​Being proud of what you’ve created together and never doubting that you have the touch and communication skills for lasting fulfillment and joy!

Welcome to The Erotic Blueprints™!

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Created by renowned author and Somatic Sexologist, Jaiya, the Erotic Blueprint™ framework will help you discover the pleasure waiting, untapped, in your body right now...teaching you how to unlock your most satisfying pleasure possibilities...while uncovering and releasing cultural programming, hidden blocks, and obstacles that not only stunt your pleasure, but block the deeper connection, confidence, and fulfillment we've all been collectively starving for. 

It is time to reclaim our birthright of pleasure and follow it back to a place of peace in ourselves, our bodies, our relationships and our lives....so we can know and own ALL of ourselves and step into free, full and fearless self-expression! So whether you're bored, confused, lost, suppressed, or misrepresented, this comprehensive program can help you claim your desires and unlock healthy, erotic ecstasy. Everyone has a unique Erotic Blueprint. So if you're ready to uncover your map to ecstasy, it's time to experience your very own Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough!

FOUNDATIONS: 2 Session Trial

Includes:
  • Initial FOUNDATIONS Session (Virtual or In-Person)
  • Receive At-Home Somatic Inquiries and Practices
  • 60-Minute Zoom Follow-up Session
  • Guidance Moving Forward: whether that be utilizing tools on your own, or discussing recommended support moving forward (in-person is highly suggested!)
• This is an opportunity for deep listening in a safe and judgement-free space where All Of You is welcome!
• Be guided through somatic inquiries and practices to explore what it is that you most desire and long for, and we will also explore some of the imprints and patterns that may be inhibiting your fullest expression of aliveness and joy.
• Any bodywork for an initial in-person FOUNDATIONS session will be focusing on a visceral experience of safety within your body.
• ​If you arrive as a couple, inquiries and somatic practices will be relational in nature, as together we not only discover what limiting patterns may be arising, but you will also be guided in exploring new ways of communicating and touching to establish new skills for deepened connection.

A Potential Initial In-Person/Bodywork Session:

Of course, there will be variances depending on what brings you to my door. What are your unique needs, goals and desires? What has been arising in your experience? What are the blocks that are keeping you from your fullest expression? It all starts with your nervous system, and establishing a baseline of safety within your body. We will lay the foundation of co-regulation, attunement and embodied consent.


This particular assessment/treatment protocol was created by Ellen Heed, pioneer in scar tissue remediation, and creator of STREAM. And....our session may end up only including particular elements of this, as the path of each session will always be emergent and responsive to what is arising, moment to moment. 
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  1. When you arrive to your session, we start with safely “arriving” and landing not only in the space around you, but also safely arriving and landing in your body. Let’s also tune-in to the space between you and I. Attunement is particularly important.
  2. As we move to the table for bodywork, we will utilize communication, touch practices and bodywork protocols to assess and regulate your nervous system. We ALWAYS notice, track and go at the pace of the slowest part of you!
  3. I utilize cranial work to assess for tension and facilitate vagal flow. Throughout the session, I will always be assessing and addressing tension and unconscious holding patterns.
  4. I work to open the breath and optimize pelvic placement and mobility.
  5. Assessment continues to legs, pelvis, and to the back body.
  6. Allowing time and space at the end of the session is particularly important for integration as you transition back into "normal" life!
Throughout this bodywork protocol, created by Ellen Heed, I will be working with 16 postural muscles, where the muscle meets the bone. ‘Where muscle meets bone’ is where we will discover tension patterns, postural influences, scar tissue and potential pain. This is also where messages carried by the nerves to muscles, glands or organs may be strained or distorted. We are also noticing and tracking protective and emotional reactions and responses, as well.

​This modality of bodywork delivers effective hands-on work to assess what’s changing in one’s tissue and to notice blockage and scars caused by biochemistry, biomechanics or emotions. As I move through your body, the muscle we’re working with and the emotion that may arise are simply building a bridge from a felt-sense of something...to a possible conversation. Conversations and insights that we might not get to in any other way.

But to reemphasize...your session may look completely different...as your needs, body and nervous system might call for a very different unfolding! Perhaps "arriving and landing in" your body is the whole session! Perhaps "feeling safe in your body" is a new neuro-opportunity for you! And that would be HUGE! 
  • ​​​​​Want to explore and expand their capacity to experience pleasure in their own bodies, with others, and in life!
  •  Want to feel more empowered and expressive as a sexual being
  •  Want to cultivate more choice and voice in their intimate relationships, and lives at large
  • Want to explore consent, boundaries and communication in intimate relationships 
  • Want to better understand their anatomy of arousal - resilience and capacity for an expanded range of "orgasmicity"!
  • Want to experience more meaningful, satisfying and easeful intimate connections
  • ​Desire to navigate sexual differences in a relationship, and explore deeper and more connected erotic possibilities
  • Want to learn more about the healing, deepening and expansion that is available when discovering one another's Erotic Blueprint™!

APRIL/MAY OPPORTUNITIES:
VIRTUAL SUPPORT:
  • Virtual Zoom sessions (30-60 minutes) every 4-10 days thru end of April
  • Receive at-home practices and processes to strengthen new choices and capacities
  • Online coaching portal for ongoing communication and support thru the end of May
  • Bonus virtual Zoom sessions available May 20th-22nd, 2024
  • Investment = $850
  • Option to resume ongoing virtual mentorship support in June ~ A new contract will be discussed.

FOR THOSE LOCAL TO COLORADO:
  • Two 2-hour in-person/direct-experience/bodywork sessions during the month of April
  • Virtual Zoom sessions (30-60 minutes) every 4-10 days thru end of April
  • Virtual messaging support and at-home practices thru the month of May to support integration
  • Bonus virtual Zoom sessions available May 20th-22nd, 2024
  • Investment = $1,200 

APRIL 3-DAY IMMERSION: (Local to Colorado or Fly In to Boulder!)
  • Virtual Intake Session for Preparation
  • Session Work | Day 1: Late Afternoon Session | Day 2: Full Day | Day 3: Morning Integration Session
  • Follow-Up Virtual Sessions for Integration; Includes Resources + At-Home Practices
  • Investment = $2,000 (Normally $3,000. This price available for April Immersions, only.)​
INCREDIBLY LOW INVESTMENT DUE TO LAST-MINUTE NATURE OF OFFERING!

WHAT AM I UP TO IN MAY?
Spinal Attunement Method™ training | Austin, TX | 5/2-5/5, 2024
Supporting 2 Incredible Clients for Seen & Unseen Healing Retreat | San Antonio, TX | 5/7-5/12, 2024
Supporting Ellen Heed for STREAM training | Ashland, OR | 5/16-5/26, 2024

Virtual Coaching/Mentorship

  • The foundation of our work together is greatly influenced by Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent.
  • We begin with safety and your ability to remain present in your body. What imprints and protective/defense mechanisms keep you from living into your fullest expression? (Which includes your sexuality!)
  • What small, courageous steps can you take to open to ease, joy and shameless celebration of your erotic nature? 
  • Get out of your head and learn to notice, trust, value and communicate the wisdom of your body - your desires, your limits/boundaries, and what expressions of aliveness are most meaningful to you!
  • Explore, experiment with and discover your Erotic Blueprint™, and that of your partner or future partner.
  • Learn how to ask for what you want with clarity and confidence.
  • Grow beyond chasing the kind of orgasm that is little more than a release of tension, and tap into expanded states of "orgasmicity" that are authentic to where EACH of you are, moment to moment.
  • Home-practices to be done in between sessions for deepening and integration (THIS is the key aspect of your healing and transformation!)
  • Ongoing resources, communication and support via private online coaching portal
  • Audio/text message support via Voxer or other messaging Apps​​​​
  • Optional add-on enrollment in the online Erotic Blueprint™ Video Library (valued at $1,990)​​

Foundations: 40 Days/4 Virtual Sessions  | $1,200*

Whether you are desiring support as a single or a couple, this is where we begin. This container is less about the 4 virtual sessions, than it is the CONTAINER of TIME whereby I support you in making NEW empowered choices as together we begin to explore the Obstacles which are also the Pathways to your fullest sexual expression. (Each of the 4 virtual sessions will be scheduled upon payment.) 

From here, we will decide what ongoing support will look like and entail. Ideally, we will continue to work together for 3-6 months, and will also have the opportunity for in-person bodywork/direct-experience. We may explore what is possible during a video Discovery Call.

Traveling From Outside Denver/Boulder | Immersion Retreats


Your Very Own "Sex, Love & Goop" Experience! Retreat from your everyday duties and obligations and immerse yourself/yourselves in directing full attunement and attention to YOU! What beliefs, conditioning, tensions and patterns have been taking you away from the fullest expression of YOU?! Giving yourself anywhere from 3-5 days of Immersive Direct Experiential Learning and Renegotiation of Patterns allows for the generation of new neural pathways that lay the foundation for new empowered choices that translate to the fullest expression of who you are, what you desire, and how you choose to live this one, beautiful life!

​If you are a couple, go away with a deeper connection and tools to continue to co-create an intimate life that continues to deepen, expand and evolve! If you are single, go away with empowered voice and choice to create a relationship that excites and enlivens you!

Container is a minimum of 2 months to allow for adequate preparation prior to, and integration support after, your Immersion. We want to allow plenty of spaciousness and honor each part of you that gets to be seen, witnessed and held. Too much, too fast...and there will be contraction. When courageously taking new steps with time for digestion and assimilation...you are going away more empowered and embodying the fullest expression of YOU! Retreat to beautiful Boulder, CO! (Or I may also travel to you!)
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  • ​INDIVIDUAL must be minimum of 2-Month Container/3-Day Immersion, begins at $4,000*
  • COUPLE must be a minimum of 2-Month Container/4-Day Immersion, begins at $6,000*
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INDIVIDUAL begins at $4,000* COUPLE begins at $6,000*

* These investments are subject to fluctuation and change, depending on my schedule and availability. I suggest you lock in your dates and rates as soon as possible!
Some people may just want to have the opportunity to connect with a Somatic Sexologist/Sex Educator without any expectations of engaging in continued support within a larger container. I've got you! Your questions may be specific to The Erotic Blueprints, or you may simply wish to be held in a safe, judgement-free container as you begin to explore all of your delicious choices as it relates to living into your fullest sexual expression!

Want to dive into your pleasure potential? The initial 60-Minute Zoom session is a space of deep listening, sex+pleasure education, compassionate curiosity, fierce care, somatic experiencing and powerful expansion. You will go away with Somatic Resources and Practices for Integrated Learning. In between our sessions is when you will have time and space for practices on your own. Our second 60-Minute Zoom session is an opportunity to celebrate your small "wins" and to troubleshoot any "growth edges" that may have arisen.

Erotic Blueprint Clarity Calls ~ $250

  • Includes Two 60-Minute Zoom Clarity Sessions for Singles and Couples
  • Receive the In-Depth Blueprint Quiz (value $17)
  • 28-Page Report Customized According to Your Quiz Results
  • Questionnaire Prior to Our Session for a Tailored Experience
  • Go Away with Resources and Somatic Practices to Embody Your Learning
  • The second 'Follow-up Session' is for Deepening and Integration ​

​Did you do your practices? What showed up? How does this inform your integration of what you learned? If you are interested in the possibility of receiving continued support, this is an opportunity for each of us to see if this is a fit, and how I may best support you! Or...you now have some tools and information to continue on your own, as well!

​Your Very Own "Sex, Love & Goop" Experience! Retreat from your everyday duties and obligations and immerse yourself/yourselves in directing full attunement and attention to YOU! What beliefs, conditioning, tensions and patterns have been taking you away from the fullest expression of YOU?! Giving yourself anywhere from 3-5 days of Immersive Direct Experiential Learning and Renegotiation of Patterns allows for the regeneration of new neural pathways that will become the foundation for new empowered choices that translate to the fullest expression of who you are, what you desire, and how you choose to live this one, beautiful life!

If you are a couple, go away with a deeper connection and tools to continue to co-create an intimate life that continues to deepen, expand and evolve. If you are single, go away with empowered voice and choice to create an intimate life that excites and enlivens you. Why wait any longer?

Container is a minimum of 2 months to allow for adequate preparation prior to, and integration support after, your Immersion. We want to allow plenty of spaciousness and honor each part of you that gets to be seen, witnessed and held. Too much, too fast...and there will be contraction. When you courageously take new steps with time for digestion and assimilation...you are going away more empowered and embodying the fullest expression of YOU! Retreat to beautiful Boulder, CO! (Or I may also travel to you!)
​
  • ​INDIVIDUAL must be minimum of 2-Month Container/3-Day Immersion, begins at $4,000*
  • COUPLE must be a minimum of 2-Month Container/4-Day Immersion, begins at $6,000*
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Some people may just want to have the opportunity to connect with a Somatic Sexologist/Sex Educator without any expectations of engaging in continued support within a larger container. I've got you! Your questions may be specific to The Erotic Blueprints, or you may simply wish to be held in a safe, judgement-free container as you begin to explore all of your delicious choices as it relates to living into your fullest sexual expression!

Want to dive into your pleasure potential? The initial 60-Minute Zoom session is a space of deep listening, sex+pleasure education, compassionate curiosity, fierce care, somatic experiencing and powerful expansion. You will go away with Somatic Resources and Practices for Integrated Learning. In between our sessions is when you will have time and space for practices on your own. Our second 60-Minute Zoom session is an opportunity to celebrate your small "wins" and to troubleshoot any "growth edges" that may have arisen.

Erotic Blueprint Clarity Calls ~ $250

  • Includes Two 60-Minute Zoom Clarity Sessions for Singles and Couples
  • Receive the In-Depth Blueprint Quiz (value $17)
  • 28-Page Report Customized According to Your Quiz Results
  • Questionnaire Prior to Our Session for a Tailored Experience
  • Go Away with Resources and Somatic Practices to Embody Your Learning
  • The second 'Follow-up Session' is for Deepening and Integration ​

​Did you do your practices? What showed up? How does this inform your integration of what you learned? If you are interested in the possibility of receiving continued support, this is an opportunity for each of us to see if this is a fit, and how I may best support you! Or...you now have some tools and information to continue on your own, as well!