Sex & Intimacy Coaching

Sex & Intimacy Coaching - For Men, Women & Couples

I am honored to offer private Sex & Intimacy Coaching sessions for men, women and couples who are looking to heal, grow and expand their sexual capacities. The form of these sessions are customized based on your history, challenges, intentions and desires. Our work is guided by your goals for sexual healing, erotic and emotional skill building, and relationship transformation.

Sex & Intimacy Coaching is the process of drawing out your inherent wisdom to refine your relationship with your sexuality and expand your potential for pleasure, passion and authenticity. I guide individuals to be more connected and authentic in their sexuality and body. Our work together will also include discovering your Core Erotic Blueprint™!

The best sex happens when your heart, your mind, and your body are all on board, and a little guidance can make all the difference. I'll ask you questions to make it easier to figure out what you want. I'll make suggestions for things to try, information to read, and ways to talk with your partner. We'll explore somatic practices that will help you tune into your desires and connect more deeply with your lover.

Some Areas of Exploration:

Exploring and playing with communicating your desires and fantasies
Healing past trauma or boundary violations/Freeing yourself from shame
How to discover your authentic sexual desire/Erotic Blueprint™
Learning to clearly define your "yes's" and your "no's", and to communicate them
How to talk with your partner about what you really want
Continue deepening your sexual connection within long-term relationships
Bringing sensual kink and playful power dynamics into the bedroom
Overcome sexual concerns, such as painful sex, low libido, ED, PE, etc.
May include enrollment in Jaiya's online Blueprint Breakthrough Course

WORKING WITH COUPLES - Communicate Your Desires

In my work, I help couples enhance and expand their sexual repertoire in order to have ongoing desire. I help you gain the necessary communication skills to express yourself and receive the other's expression as you dive into the realms of sensation, fantasy, and passionate connection to create an exciting and multi-faceted sexual relationship between you and your partner.

There are many ways to explore sex and make it more hot, passionate, romantic, physically stimulating and psychologically arousing. In order to start exploring all of the different ways you might expand, it is helpful to have a map to understand the different realms in which it is possible to play. I love to help individuals and couples identify their favorite realm and explore and expand in all of these realms to create long-term excitement and sexual satisfaction. As a couple, you will be guided through exercises for you to practice and explore needs, desires and boundaries.

You will both learn to:

Notice what you want
Trust what you want
Value what you want
Communicate what you want

Couple's Sessions are a minimum of 3 hours, may be half or full-day explorations, or 2-4 day Immersion Retreats. I am also available to come to your private home or lodging.

Bring Back the Connection, Intimacy and Passion!

Often, when couples initially connect, sex is passionate, frequent and hot. It is natural for our sexual connections to shift and change, to ebb and flow. Sometimes, however, this natural contractions and expansion of sexual flow between lovers becomes stuck. Sex can be problematic. Even the most connected couples experience sexual challenges at some point in their relationship!

Once the chemical high of a new sex relationship has deepened into the more sustainable love relationship, we can expect sex to change. If a partner has a difficult sexual past, a new partner can offset problematic sexual responses, for a while. But after time, these patterns have a tendency to return. Also, couples can become entrenched in patterns of disconnect or resentment, or even just patterns of turn-on and sexual expression.

Even in functional relationships, sex and intimacy change over time. Life changes such as stress, illness, becoming parents, moving, work-related stress, ailing parents, can change how we express our sexuality in partnership. If cycles of blame or denial or withholding of love and intimacy are happening, sex becomes weaponized. There is a chasm that occurs within the relationship that becomes hard to span. If a couple gets blocked around sex, it can be really challenging to talk about the discomfort or unhappiness you are feeling in your intimate partnership.

Here's where a Sex & Intimacy Coach can really facilitate a transition back to expanded erotic possibilities and sexual satisfaction for each partner. In my practice, I offer tools, exercises and support for couples to honestly face the issues they have, and move gently away from sexual blocks, towards greater pleasure and connection.

Couple's Intimacy Coaching is ideal if you and your partner would like:

to deepen your sexual connection. Couples that make time for regular physical intimacy are far better off than those that do not. Relationships where sex is fun and exploratory, and meets both partners' needs for connection and consent rest upon a strong foundation.
to have better communication about sex, fantasy, desire and boundaries. Talking about what you want or don't want is a skill that can be learned over time. Developing honest, simple ways to communicate during intimacy really can make the world of difference. It allows each person to receive touch the way that they want it to be, rather than how another thinks it should be; creating intimacy that feels confident, clear and full of choice.
to have better sex, or to start having sex again. Often partners don't want to 'rock the boat' in terms of the sex they are having, and sex can get boring, repetitious, canned, or infrequent. Somatic Sex Education helps you communicate about sex, so that you can start having it how and when you want!
to learn how your partner is erotically wired, and how to 'feed' them! It starts with knowing your partner's 'pleasure map' and how you partner is wired to feel the most pleasure. Learn conscious touch skills that will bring greater intimacy and connection for deeper passion and more frequent and more fulfilling sex!

Couple's Intimacy Coaching Sessions are an ideal container to explore new techniques, break old habits, and reinvigorate your sex life. All with non-judgmental hands-on support, in real time. Exploring sexuality together as a couple can deepen connection, and expand pleasure as well as help with sexual concerns that couples are having. Intimacy Coaching can allow you to heal or shift sexual challenges, address stored shame or trauma, break old habits, try new techniques, increase the intimacy you share, and reinvigorate your couple's sex life. If you have stopped having sex, or have a low-sex marriage, or sex needs to be better, seeing an Intimacy Coach will help.

Sexual Breakdown

You live mostly in your head
You notice sexual blocks/inhibitions
You have physical sexual concerns like libido or pain
Sexual past prevents you from enjoying sex
You're in a low-sex or no-sex relationship
You're in repeating destructive relationship patterns
Shame is a permanent resident
Your ability to feel is compromised; numbness
The sexual routine in your relationship is boring
Not sure how to initiate sex, or what to do
You may experience pelvic pain or discomfort
You uncomfortable talking about sex or your desires
You don't really know what you want, just not this

Erotic Freedom

You live fully in your body
You have easy access to your turn-on
Everything's working as it should physically
Your orgasms run a spectrum from good to amazing
You're in the present, experiencing your full sexuality
Great sex is happening on the regular
You live a big, joyful, shame-free life
You feel exquisite pleasure and sensation
Your sexual relationships are curious and exploratory
You feel sexually confident
You experience relaxed pleasure
You've got effective, sexy communication skills
You know what you want, ask for it, and receive it!

If you find that you are mostly on the "Sexual Breakdown" side of things,
Somatic Sex Education and Intimacy Coaching can move you towards Erotic Freedom!

Somatic Sex Coaching:

I love talking with people about whatever is going on for them and helping them make their sex lives amazing. And there are times when talking isn't the most effective approach. As a certified Sexological Bodyworker, I'm trained to provide hands-on education and coaching to help you feel more alive in your body and present during sex.

The ability to create peak sexual experiences rests on your capacity to feel and contain pleasure without checking out or distracting yourself. The more attention and intention you can bring to sex, the more room you'll have to discover your authentic desires and explore where they go, on your own or with a partner. The more attuned you are to your body and your unique sexuality, the more easily you and a partner can create hot and passionate connection. Sexological Bodywork is a guided process of learning about your sexuality so that you an feel more alive, embodied, and present during sex.

There are many kinds of sexological bodywork experiences, any of which can be tailored to meet your specific needs and goals.
Some of them include:

Coaching in breath and movement to regulate arousal and enhance pleasure
Freedom from the barriers to authentic sexual expression
Increased ability to create and sustain erotic energy
Staying present during arousal and increased capacity to feel pleasure
Setting and communicating boundaries
Learning sexual anatomy
Understanding and and/or prostate pleasure
Bodywork for both pleasure and embodiment
Determining your Core Erotic Blueprint™
Exploring sensate focus and mapping your pleasure
Creating states of erotic trance
Scar tissue remediation and relief from pelvic pain