Sex & Intimacy CoachingYou're with the partner you deeply love. Your love is extraordinary & you feel at home with each other....AND... You want sex to be an extraordinary and meaningful expression of your big love for each other. You also desire to bring back the fun, joy, pleasure and creative expression for deeper connection and sexual satisfaction!
Perhaps you're newly single and desiring to learn how to know and better communicate what it is that you truly desire! |
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Get The Support Your Love Deserves
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Imagine sex feeling easy …
Imagine sex coming from desire, not obligation or guilt… Imagine sex feeding and deepening your love for each other. Learn how receiving support in this area of your life can make all the difference! |
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OBLIGATORY SEX
Feeling guarded and walking on eggshells to make sure that you do the right thing at the right time
Holding back on saying what you want in fear of hurting or pushing away your partner Getting sex "over with" so one partner gets their pleasure and the "box is checked" Rushing through foreplay and intercourse without taking time to get aroused Engaging out of guilt or fear of disappointing or losing your partner Enduring sex or "giving in" after the monthly “It’s been a while” conversation Going through the motions to "get off" with minimal touch and arousal, just enough to orgasm Feeling ashamed of or disappointed with this part of your life, even though the rest of your relationship is loving and fulfilling |
INTIMATE LOVEMAKING
Letting your guard down and moving towards each other in an open and vulnerable way
Communicating desires without guilt or shame and in ways where you each feel understood Making pleasure part of the shared experience of deeper connection and sexual satisfaction Realizing there is no "foreplay", only following moment-to-moment pleasure Engaging with each other from playful curiosity, fullness and generosity Learning that scheduling is a way to honor each other's timing and capacity for full presence Connecting deeply through touch and sexual play in ways that enliven and excite both partners Being proud of what you’ve created together and never doubting that you have the touch and communication skills for lasting fulfillment and joy! |
How I May Support You:
We start with discovering where you are struggling. What and where are the blocks that are inhibiting you personally, and in your intimate connection with one another? What is it that you desire? What is possible that you may have not even considered?
Unfortunately, none of us really had any good sex education,Much of what holds us back from our erotic potential is caused by remnants of past messages, experiences and conditioning that may now reside in our tissues and psyches. And...our obstacles ARE our pathways! Through somatic practices and processes, you will be making new empowered choices to build expanded neural pathways towards grater resource, pleasure and play.
Unfortunately, none of us really had any good sex education,Much of what holds us back from our erotic potential is caused by remnants of past messages, experiences and conditioning that may now reside in our tissues and psyches. And...our obstacles ARE our pathways! Through somatic practices and processes, you will be making new empowered choices to build expanded neural pathways towards grater resource, pleasure and play.
As a Somatic Sex Educator, Sexological Bodyworker and Sex+Intimacy Coach since 2016, I have worked with hundreds of individuals and couples, both virtually and in-person. Much of my work centers on the framework of The Erotic Blueprints (I am one of five Master Trainers and a Lead Coach) which is a rich framework for expanding and understanding your definition of what "sex" is, that you are not broken or wrong in any way; and that, in fact, your desires are fundamentally natural and good! Whether they are in the Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky or Shapeshifter realm of sexuality!
I work with my clients within a set container of time; generally four months, six months, or a full year. It is highly recommended that you come to Boulder for a series of in-person work, or an Immersion Retreat. (Your very own "Sex, Love & Goop" experience!) I allow for us to simply begin with one month ($1,500) for each of us to see if this is a fit. Our work sometimes begins with the sex education that most of us never had; un-learning old models, beliefs, patterns and conditioning, and re-claiming our bodies, our pleasure, and our authentic sexual expression.
Erotic Foundations: One-Month Coaching/Mentorship | $1,500
For those looking to begin to lay a solid foundation of erotic embodiment, or dip a toe into the journey before diving in fully, this offers the chance to begin building up the resources and rapport necessary to claiming your fullest authentic erotic expression.
During these 30 days together, you can expect to explore a range of touch and communication practices introducing you to fundamentals such as exploring boundaries, learning to identify desires and preferences, how to regulate your nervous system to be with the intensity and vulnerability that intimacy naturally includes, and more. This is a gentle approach to a longer coaching journey, tailored to your pace. Upon completion, you will have the option to continue with ongoing support or consider a customized Immersion Retreat. Together we can discuss what makes the most sense, given your intentions and step by step, pave the path to the erotic liberation you desire.
- Commitment of time for cultivation of new awareness, and touch and communication practices
- Number and length of virtual sessions determined according to specific needs and desires
- Private online coaching portal for additional learning resources and online communication and support
- Includes guided virtual "VIP Day" for direct-experience learning. (Or a 4-hour in-person session in Boulder, CO!)
During these 30 days together, you can expect to explore a range of touch and communication practices introducing you to fundamentals such as exploring boundaries, learning to identify desires and preferences, how to regulate your nervous system to be with the intensity and vulnerability that intimacy naturally includes, and more. This is a gentle approach to a longer coaching journey, tailored to your pace. Upon completion, you will have the option to continue with ongoing support or consider a customized Immersion Retreat. Together we can discuss what makes the most sense, given your intentions and step by step, pave the path to the erotic liberation you desire.
How does this differ from therapy?
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While therapy utilizes a "top-down" treatment model to identify and diagnose dysfunction, I work "bottom-up; which means my work with you is body-based and informed by the neurobiology of the nervous system. Through somatic practices and processes, I guide you in learning to embody a sense of safety that you may have never developed in your early life, by finding deeper connection and trust in your own body, versus a therapy model of talking about past narratives and stories. Working in this way helps you to increase emotional awareness and your capacity to feel, receive and give pleasure physically and emotionally, and co-create relationships based on compassion, empathy, trust, embodied consent, integrity and true acceptance.
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Results are based on the cultivation, practice and repetition of new choices over a period of time. You are provided with learning resources, embodied homework and practice sessions that will support you in rewiring your nervous system into new habits of safety, presence, pleasure and being able to track and communicate what is arising, moment-to-moment. Learn to honor and speak your truth from a place of self-love, self-acceptance and self-discovery to create a whole new landscape of erotic possibility!
Virtual coaching sessions provide you with a practice space to safely talk about sex, ask questions you’ve never asked before, and get coaching help where you feel stuck or frozen because of shame or sex-negative conditioning from family, religion, or social conditioning. Because I work somatically, I will help you notice what is happening in your body and ask you questions to help you bring into your awareness what may be unconscious, so you may integrate what has been unresolved, and relax instead into more ease, pleasure and joy.
Together to come up with homework; small, doable pieces you can do yourself or with your partner that support self-discovery, empathy, and expanding your communication and touch skills. You may be practicing finding arousal in a new way, talking about sex out loud in ways you’ve never dared before, or breathing and grounding as ways of letting go of performance anxiety, fear, or resentment when they come up. All of this means you are cultivating and actively co-creating the kind of satisfying, playful, truly present sexual experiences you actually want, with the one(s) you love most ~ including yourself, if you are single!