WOMEN'S PELVIC HEALTH
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Vulva Mapping
Vulva mapping is an opportunity to have your vulva touched
with total compassion, and with no agenda.
It's a space where you can explore the history of your pelvis
(from gynecological exams, to sex, to birth), and share the stories
that are being held there.
It's a space of incredible slowness, rich with opportunity to negotiate consent, and practice communicating your own boundaries.
It's a space where your yoni can be honored, normalized, and freed from old stories, pain, and shame. It's a space where you can reclaim your body as your own.
It can also be a place to be curious about your own arousal trajectory: what parts are where, what they do, and how they respond to touch.
with total compassion, and with no agenda.
It's a space where you can explore the history of your pelvis
(from gynecological exams, to sex, to birth), and share the stories
that are being held there.
It's a space of incredible slowness, rich with opportunity to negotiate consent, and practice communicating your own boundaries.
It's a space where your yoni can be honored, normalized, and freed from old stories, pain, and shame. It's a space where you can reclaim your body as your own.
It can also be a place to be curious about your own arousal trajectory: what parts are where, what they do, and how they respond to touch.
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Systemic social-sexual ignorance is common. Mapping offers experiential learning of the structure and function of vulva tissues. We don't know that we don't know until we get mapped. What we don't know limits sexual experience. Somatic sex education is direct and locates the invisible. Mapping links physical with mental representations of unknown parts of our body.
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Pelvic Exams and Trauma: Most gynecological exams are highly uncomfortable, as well. We can't see what's happening and we are treated as though we aren't the experts of our own bodies and experiences. Medical professionals are trained to treat only the pelvis; not the whole human. We're so afraid of overstepping into sexual harassment or worse, that we've forgotten how to be open-hearted and human in medical interaction.
But during a gynecological exam, all kinds of things can be triggered. Vaginas weren't made to be entered fast, without eye contact, without a deep breath, without connection. Often during an exam we go "up and out" to get through the discomfort of being entered too fast; the intensity of big, cold speculums; the swab poking at our cervixes. We dissociate; we stare into one of the florescent lights, tolerating the intensity or pain, and then fast-forwarding into our lives without integrating the experience.
If we've experienced sexual trauma, pelvic exams can be even more disorienting.
Why is Vulva Mapping Such Potent Medicine?
Our current cultural climate makes vulva mapping especially powerful. Women are coming into something new, especially after #MeToo. We are being called as a collective to our own bodies and experiences, to be radically honest with ourselves about our histories and desire, and to figure out and advocate for our own pleasure. Too often, women receive sex; we allow men to take the lead. We rode the wave of the experience, and we tolerate touches that don't feel good.
VULVA MAPPING is so potent because it starts to unwind a lifetime of social conditioning
Women are taught to be good, and being good means being g agreeable and being quiet. So many of us carry this attitude into the bedroom, and it can lead to having no idea what it is we do want.
We end up acting as the gatekeepers of sex; men push for it, and we keep it. We have "traditional" sex in the A to B trajectory (oral sex, penetration sex until h has an orgasm, the end, finish), not realizing there is another side of sex to explore; one where we are in the moment, fully present and following our impulses. This is the kind of sex that feels deep, sacred, and fulfilling on many levels.
We end up acting as the gatekeepers of sex; men push for it, and we keep it. We have "traditional" sex in the A to B trajectory (oral sex, penetration sex until h has an orgasm, the end, finish), not realizing there is another side of sex to explore; one where we are in the moment, fully present and following our impulses. This is the kind of sex that feels deep, sacred, and fulfilling on many levels.
~ Lynn Wolfbrandt, Boulder, CO
What Does a Session Look Like?
All sessions look different, because we're all storing different stories and experiences in our pelvis. Not all sessions include hands-in work. Our time together is valuable, regardless. We are going at the pace of your nervous system, and truly learning what that speed is; seeing where your mind might override your body. We'll examine consent and boundaries through embodied exercises, practicing choice and voice. We'll keep grounding and regulating our nervous systems together, working our way towards your yoni with great care.
The mapping process is a somatic experience of your genitals in an environment that is not clinical or sexual. No stirrups, no unwanted touch, no desire outcome. It's slow and intentional, not cold or mechanical. Often, just this witnessing is the medicine that we need the most to more fully embody our humanness, our pelvis and our life.
Arousal is not the goal, but it is also not ignored or unwelcome. Tissues change with touch, that's normal physiological response. And while shame or trauma may rise to the surface during this process, it's a safe container for it's unraveling,
In a mapping session, intention and deep listening give space to the part of us that has often remained unspoken or has been referred to as private, off-limits, or even dirty. Skilled, present touch brings the genitals on the map in our consciousness and unwinds layers of shame in the unconscious realm. It's simple...yet radical.
Receiving genital touch that is not medical, clinical, sexual, unwanted, unexpected or otherwise unpleasant, is normalizing the territory and also rewiring the nervous system in the process. This is a radical act of sexual autonomy and a quantum leap in making sovereign healthy choices.
The mapping process is a somatic experience of your genitals in an environment that is not clinical or sexual. No stirrups, no unwanted touch, no desire outcome. It's slow and intentional, not cold or mechanical. Often, just this witnessing is the medicine that we need the most to more fully embody our humanness, our pelvis and our life.
Arousal is not the goal, but it is also not ignored or unwelcome. Tissues change with touch, that's normal physiological response. And while shame or trauma may rise to the surface during this process, it's a safe container for it's unraveling,
In a mapping session, intention and deep listening give space to the part of us that has often remained unspoken or has been referred to as private, off-limits, or even dirty. Skilled, present touch brings the genitals on the map in our consciousness and unwinds layers of shame in the unconscious realm. It's simple...yet radical.
Receiving genital touch that is not medical, clinical, sexual, unwanted, unexpected or otherwise unpleasant, is normalizing the territory and also rewiring the nervous system in the process. This is a radical act of sexual autonomy and a quantum leap in making sovereign healthy choices.
A mapping session says,
"You are here, in the space where the unseen becomes seen.
Your vulva is an integral part of your whole body existence.
It's yours to claim in the most sacred and human way possible".
"You are here, in the space where the unseen becomes seen.
Your vulva is an integral part of your whole body existence.
It's yours to claim in the most sacred and human way possible".